There is it again...the mirror that seems to taunt you every time you look at it.
But, the voice is not coming from the mirror. It's your inner critic listing out your imperfections.
We've all been there! Being human means having insecurities.
But, having a consistently negative view about your appearance can hold you back from finding your next best friend, adding a new favorite shirt to your collection, or taking the first selfie that you actually like.
Learn how you can boost your self-confidence with these 5 tips.
1. Focus On What You Like
We're hardwired to focus on the negative rather than the positive side of anything. This concept is called negative bias.
This is the reason why you might think more about what's wrong with your appearance rather than what you like.
Knowing your brain's default thinking patterns can help you undo them.
How you can boost your self confidence with a new mindset:
Create a list of things that you like about your appearance.
Replace a negative thought about yourself with a positive one.
Make a gratitude list about your body and its benefits to you.
Quiz
Emily thinks that she never looks as good as her friends when they go out. What could she tell herself instead?
2. Practice Self Care
Practicing self care means that you're doing things that are keeping you healthy. Self care is not about temporarily escaping your problems or indulging in pleasures, it's about helping you feel good about yourself and the way you look.
Real self care isn't easy, but doing it consistently will boost your confidence.
How you can boost your self confidence with self care:
3. Wear What Makes You Feel Good
An outfit that represents you and makes you feel good can easily boost your confidence.
If you currently don't feel good about your wardrobe or struggle to find clothes that look flattering, understand that this is a process that will take some time.
The "right" clothing that looks flattering is often tailored to your body type and shape, so find out your body type and what works with your physique.
How you can boost your self confidence with style:
Figure out your body measurements.
Do research on what looks best on your body type.
Find clothing that fits well rather than focus on a specific style.
Quiz: Help Ellie Boost Her Self Confidence
Ellie is a young teacher trying to feel confident about her looks. She has to deliver a speech in front of the entire school, but she is afraid that her low confidence about herself will weaken her delivery.
What scenario will improve Ellie's confidence in her looks to prepare for her big day?
Scenario 1: Ellie gets her challenging fourth grade class to vote on the dress she should wear for her speech.
Scenario 2: Ellie looks at old photos of herself to get inspiration for how she should do her hair.
Scenario 3: Ellie goes shopping for a new outfit with her best friend.
Scenario 4: Ellie eats her favorite snack right before her speech to boost her energy.
Quiz
Which scenario would help Ellie improve her confidence in her appearance to help her deliver a successful speech?
4. Surround Yourself with Positive People
Think about "your people". Do they hype you up no matter what? Or do they point out your frizzy hair on a rainy day?
You want your friends to be honest with you even when you don't look or feel your best. But, telling the truth without considering your feelings isn't helpful.
Negative comments from others can influence the way you see yourself, so surrounding yourself with supportive and encouraging people is another key to becoming more confident in your appearance.
What is your friend group like? Is there anyone you should limit your time with because they don't seem supportive or kind?
5. Limit Comparing Yourself to Others
Social media and real life experiences tempt you to compare yourself to others. These comparisons can make you focus on the negative parts of yourself and have an unrealistic idea of beauty.
Remember that everyone is unique. Focusing on your good qualities will help you get closer to becoming more confident in yourself.
How you can boost your self confidence with less comparison:
Find role models that spread positive messages about appearance.
Limit social media accounts that trigger negative thoughts.
Focus on your hobbies, passion projects, or volunteer work.
Take Action
Believe, love, and accept yourself as you are.
Doing this takes time, but it's the most important thing you'll ever do for yourself!
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